Least Attractive Hobbies

My posts are usually scheduled at least a few days in advance, but this time I have to jump the line with this post so we can put a bullet in it and I can stem the amount of emails I’m getting about it.

This chart:

looks fake as fuck to me. I haven’t done any research on it. But I have a brain in my head.

How do you think this “unattractiveness score” was calculated? Is it a percentage? Do 90% of women think playing video games is unattractive? Or is the average ranking of “unattractiveness” for playing video games a 9 out of 10? Either way, does that seem logical to you? That it would be at the top of the list when it’s the activity that a majority of single women also take part in?

Of course, it’s all nonsense. I would guess it was made by some incel who was like, “Girls are so superficial, they find guys unattractive because of their hobbies!”

There is a tiny 🤏 segment of women who will find any given hobby inherently unattractive (except maybe “online trolling”).

If you’re a funny, charming, interesting person, you can have whatever hobbies you want—so long as they don’t wholly define who you are.

Women don’t dislike you because you “collect figurines.”

They dislike you and you collect figurines.

It’s you. Stop blaming the women. Stop blaming the figurines, the model trains, or the magic tricks.

Video games are unattractive if you spend 14 hours a day playing them.

Collecting figurines is unattractive if you spend all your money on it, or if you can’t actually relate to living beings.

Magic is only unattractive—sadly—because most magicians perform it in an unattractive, desperate manner. Not because most women (or men or whoever) wouldn’t love to see something truly impossible and amazing.

If I’m being honest, in most cases where I’ve made a super-quick romantic connection over the course of a single meeting with someone who was significantly “out of my league,” magic was a part of our interaction at some point during our time together.

So there’s nothing intrinsically unattractive about magic.

There is—I have no doubt—something unattractive (and pathetic) about trying to attract people with magic. And I’m sure magic has dried more panties than moistened them. But that’s because most guys in that situation are attempting to use magic to get something. And that’s obvious to people. That’s not seductive.

But if you genuinely have something fascinating or interesting to share with someone, and you can introduce it in a natural way, and you don’t come off like you’re trying to get something from them, then it can pretty much only serve to ignite or deepen attraction. (Perhaps not a romantic attraction, but at least a human-level of attraction.)

Either way, I wouldn’t worry about that chart above, even if it was based on real data. (It’s not.) But even if it’s just spiritually true, I don’t care.

I actually like when someone tells me they don’t enjoy magic, because it usually means they’ve seen some shitty magic. Low expectations. Good. Much easier to amaze. I just agree with them. “Yeah, I know. Most of it is pretty corny. But there’s this one thing I was reading up on recently, that has me kind of intrigued….”

If you can be charismatic and win them over by showing them something that captures their interest despite their negative perceptions, that’s actually more powerful and seductive than simply engaging someone in a conversation about something they already like.